Success and failure of marriage or relationships

Success and failure of marriage or relationships

Successes and Failures of Marriages/Relationships


The first day of meeting your choice of man and woman will define a successful or failure of marriage or relationship. What do I mean by the first day? The first day is very important, is the day most people bring doom or successful to their relationship of their partner?

Why did I say doom or successful?  To have a successful marriage/relationship, on your first day, you must open up, do not be carried away by the lust of the flesh i.e. beauty, wealth and so on. You must able to let the other party know everything about you, do not hide anything, because it may come back to hurt you. Tell the other party the real you, i.e. your past and background. Let the other party know if you are previously married, have child/children, your beliefs [religion], your education background, your business or type of work you do or out of work. Do not hide anything from him/her that he/she may find out or surface in the future that may bring about doom to the relationship. Most relationships fail because of not letting other party known about your past.

Some marriages or relationship fails after several years of been together due to lairs been told on the first day. We heard of marriages that come to an end after several years when suddenly a child or wife/husband will just surface from know were. Some will lie about their background, but when the other party suddenly found out, problem start, but if you have told the other party the truth of your past, all above examples will not cause marriage/relationship breakdown. As a child of God, we should tell the truth, and if the woman/man is for you, our faithful Father, Jehovah will do the rest. Men/women tell lies in their desperation forgetting what would happen later, some would like to say the truth on the first day, but they later delay it, but by delay it, but it may be too late.

True love is not about based on past events. If the other party knows about it before he/she got into the relationship. True love is not about money, facial beauty, class, ethnicity, education background. True love is blind to above, is all about the heart of Christ. A heart of Christ is forever, it does not lairs, the heart love one as he/she sees the person.

Christian Responsibility Part Two

Christian Responsibility Part Two

Parents Responsibility towards their child/children

Responsibility means, being responsible, a moral obligation or duty, to be in charge or entrust, a thing one is responsible for.

As a parent, we all moral responsibility toward our child/children, we are the sole guardian of our children.
As a parent, God has made you a guardian of your children, once you have a child, your first priory is the child welfare and the child future.

What are our moral responsibilities?

As a responsible parent, we should be a good guardian by making sure we take good care of our child/children so that they can be of good behaviour and obedient child in our home, the society, and community also in the church of God.

Taking good care of a child is not through monetary only, but as a father or a mother, we should make sure our child is well behaved by been a good example [a good role model] to your child/children.
A house that have no peace, there is no way a child from such home will be of a good behaviour. Bible teaches us our responsibility toward our children in Ephesians 6:4, ye father, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Parents; bring your child up in God way.

A peaceful home creates a good environment to bring up a child, we can do this by not bring home outside pressures, work or business frustration to our home, by not having heated argument that will lead to a fight with your partner, also by not getting drunk or high on drugs.
Always being patience with your child/children, also able to correct their wrong doings at the initial stage. You can only do this if you allow the Spirit to always abide you. If Spirit of the Lord abides in you, you will able to overcome/destroy satanic tricks that may come your way or into your child/children life.

A peaceful home creates a good environment to bring up a child, we can do this by not bring home outside pressures, work or business frustration to our home, by not having heated argument that will lead to a fight with your partner, also by not getting drunk or high in drugs.

We should all learn from Eli the priest. Bible tells us in 1 Samuel 2:12 that the sons of Eli were sons of Be-li-ia; they knew not the Lord. Even though Eli was a priest, sons knew not God. In verse 23 of 1 Samuel 2; Eli said to his sons, why do ye such thing? For I hear of your evil dealings by all these people. As we can see from Eli statement that he left it too late to speak to his children or perhaps he was busy doing other things that he was unable to know or understand his sons. Bible tells us that, because of his son’s behaviour, he himself committed a sin before Almighty Lord. 1 Samuel 2:27-36 tells us what befall Eli and his sons.

As Christian and guardian of our children, we should teach our child/children in the way of our Lord so that they can bring peace to us, the society and themselves. Remember, on the last day, we shall ask about how we brought up our children. There is no point of us blaming the government, the society or the school. All children should be taught and corrected at home by the parents on how to behave. Because of work, business and pressures, we sometimes neglect our moral obligations toward our child/children. There is no point of having all the money or property when your child/children are or are of no good to you, and themselves or the society.
A proud parent will surely have a proud child, a drunkard, gambling, liar, thief, fighting parent or parents we surely have such child/children. We should all lives examples lives so that he or she can learn from parent’s good behaviours. We should have a personal relationship with our children; personal relationship does not necessary means material things. We some say, my son or daughter should have whatever they want; money can not buy happiness or good behaviours. By staying close with your family, you will able to understand and also know them better.
Sometimes children would misbehave to seek the attention of the parent, once they star this behaviour, it sometimes difficult for that child to come out of that behaviour.
Parents, please correct your child from their infant age, do not leave it too late as Eli the priest did. Stop blaming the society for your child wrongs. Do not be afraid to correct your child misbehaviour. Always be prayerful for your family and God shall surely answer your prayer. Do not let the name of God to blaspheme through your child action. God has given you these children for you to take proper care of them. Remember, as you want God to take good care of you, your child/children also want same from you, when you do this, our Lord Jesus Christ we surely take good care of your household for you. Please, let us apportion time for our family, it may be one hour before they go to bed, it is very important that we find time for our family. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 20:11 that a child is known by his or her doings, whether his/her work is pure, and whether it is right. We can see from above Bible verse that whatever your child did, either god or bad, at the end it affects the parents. In Proverbs 22:6, is said ‘train up a child in the way he or she should go: and when he/she is old, he/she will not depart from it. It is very important that we all train our child/children the right way of God so that they can bring glory to God almighty and your family.

The big problem that faces us this day is the issue of single parenthood. As Christian, this should never cross your mind, some women/men of this day believed that they can bring up their child/children on their own, though society accept this notion, but any true Christian should abstain from this devil notion. It is the responsibility of both parents to look after the child/children. No matter what problem devil try to bring to separate a family, there is what we call Agape love, it means husband and wife should stay together no matter the problem may be. Remember you are both the guardian of your child, and you will be asked on the judgment day. Please, do not lose your kingdom as Eli the priest did.
I pray that the Spirit of our Lord will teach us all and direct our home. I pray that all satanic forces in our home shall be destroy in the name of our Lord Jesus.
Remember, no matter what problem will face, Christ is there for us. Take your problem to Him; do not let the problem destroy you home.